Today on Mindful Monday, we’re talking selflessness: how selflessness can lead to happiness, how to practice it, and how self-care can actually be selfless. GAOQQ Sweet Slung Back Bag Bag Beach Holiday Packs Summer Tassels Letters Straw rgqArfaHappy Monday, friends! I hope you all had a fantastic weekend.
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I’d like to consider myself a pretty selfless person – I care deeply and wholeheartedly about the health and wellbeing of others, which is why I chose this field. However, upon listening to this discussion and further examination of myself, I realized I’d fallen into some selfish tendencies lately. As an entrepreneur, I’m constantly thinking about my business and myself – Is this project worth my time? Will I make enough money to reach my financial goals? Will this opportunity bring me other opportunities? The internal dialogue often comes back to investment. My investment of time and the investment of money. And I’m noticing how the conversation has shifted to this rather than how an opportunity will make me feel and more importantly, how will this make the person on the other end feel? Owning your own business is the most rewarding thing you can do. But it’s made my life like The Kara Lydon Show 24-7. And sometimes I just want to change the channel. Being selfish can bring us temporary happiness and contentment but it doesn’t last.
What Is Selflessness?
True selflessness is acting without thinking about how we will profit or benefit.
Why Practice Selflessness?
- Being selfless helps us identify and connect with others and that in and of itself is rewarding.
- It helps squash our egos because we are not acting out of pride or for a desire to be noticed. 00 RRP Bag Jeans Cross Red Bag Body Genuine Women Crossbody Designer £177 Versace 7pqfwTw
- Selflessness helps us act from our heart and soul instead of our ego, tapping into our true desired feelings.
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- It’s contagious. We want to be around generous, loving, giving people. These are the people that ultimately make the world a better place.
How To Practice Selflessness
Have you ever been caught in a conversation with someone who is just talking your ear off and your mind starts to drift and all you can think about is all the better things you could be doing with your time? I’m sure we’ve all had an experience like this in one shape, form, or another. Well, what if you could practice selflessness here instead? Give that person your upmost attention. Look at that person and think to yourself how that person is just like you. How that person is a human being with feelings, worries, dreams, and fears just like you. Connect with that person because that is what that person needs. You don’t know what may be going on that person’s life. Maybe all he/she needs is someone to listen. Someone to connect with. And you could change that person’s day, week, or even year by being present and staying and listening. You just don’t know.
And we can practice selflessness in our relationships, marriages, and friendships every day. Rather than thinking how this relationship is supposed to make you feel, shift the focus and make it about the other person. Think, “May you be happy” and “I am in this for you.” Notice how it impacts your relationships and your connections with others who are close to you. We hold all these expectations for our loved ones – parents, siblings, S.O.’s, friends, and by holding these expectations, often times we come up disappointed. By shifting the attention and purpose back to them and how you can help them, you’re changing the dialogue and the connection. You’re setting yourself up for contentment.
And when it comes to work and/or owning your own business, if you feel like the work you do is self-focused, then how can you invite some service towards others into your life? Last summer, I invested some of my time in volunteering. I volunteered with Leather Portfolio Alpha Deluxe Black Slim 096110 Tumi Black 2 vxwAfAT teaching nutrition to low-income women as part of a weekly cooking class. Yes, it was an investment of my little free time and no, I didn’t get paid. But that wasn’t the point. The point was to turn off The Kara Lydon Show and do something for the greater good of others, not asking for anything in return. And you know what, every time I walked out of that community center, my heart was so full it felt like it could explode. And that’s exactly what selflessness does – helps you find a deeper connection to others, to yourself, and fills your soul with contentment.Foldable Coffee Bag Bag Insulated Cooler Women Box Organizer Lunch QLONG for Men Tote Bag Fashion Coffee Lunch PEqxggwadt
But What About Self-Care? Is that Selfish?
I talk about self-care pretty often in my Mindful Monday posts so I want to be clear on the distinction between selfishness and self-care. Some may disagree with me on this one but IMO, if self-care is practiced with the lens of “I’m taking care of myself so I in return I can take care of others”, this is not selfish. If you take a yoga class, go for a run, get a massage, book a wellness retreat, with the intention of helping yourself so you can be of better service to those around you, ain’t no shame. I think that’s still selfless.But if all of your self-care acts are done thinking about yourself and your own happiness and not how it will impact your loved ones, then perhaps the dialogue can still shift a little.
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Do you ever feel like you get caught up in your own daytime television special? How can you shift your dialogue? What steps can you take to be more selfless in your day-to-day life? And how does being selfless make you feel?
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I’m a nutrition coach and yoga teacher helping people to learn to love food again. I love cooking, taking pictures of my food and traveling around the world. Follow my blog for delicious, seasonal vegetarian recipes and simple strategies to bring more yoga and mindfulness into your life. And check out my e-book to learn how to improve your health through nutrition and yoga. Show me what deliciousness you make! Tag me @karalydonRD on Instagram.